Does anyone recommend certain sites or apps that are similar to picky?

I really like picky for the sense of community, kindness, and honesty for skincare. 
I was looking for similar communities since I get very lost and distrustful with what sourceswhen it comes to health and beauty.
Esp when it comes to hair, excercise, and perfumes. (all the fake advertizing and fake reviews)

I really really REALLY want to be more feminine but grew up in a very anti feminine 'feminist' mindset and only realized in my 20's how much I love the pink, the feminine, and stopped demonizing self care. 

Please I really need help but my appearance doesnt give "girls girl", (i think it might scare away girls) 
and I'm too shy to talk to other girls in real life
(i have really bad social anxiety)
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(All girls are so pretty it intimidates me)

tldr; pls recommend spaces similar to picky so i can start my 'feminine era'

Communities similar to picky?

I've had these white bumps since I was around 12, 
Theyre all over my chin and around my lips. 

I have posted an old discussion about them where i was reccomended to try exfoliating;
 I've tried exfoliating using the soap my family uses for exfolianting which is papaya soap. Papaya soap has helped me with evening out my skin tone but found its very drying even though I moisturize right after using it. I also noticed its worsening the redness around my nostrils. I'm very suspect of the soap since I dont know where my mom buys them, she is also slightly obcessed with skin lightening.

I was hoping someone could recommend a good exfoliator for millia, and for any other advice you might have, thank you.

Milia(?) on chin

They look smaller in the picture but trust they are more prominant in person. When i open my eyes normally, not halfway like in the photo, the bump in my eyelid contrasts harshly with my eyelid crease.

The one on my top eyelid appeared maybe 2 or 3 years ago and the one on the bottom appeared last month.
I have no idea what they are, they feel hard and dont come out. ( I couldnt help picking at them )

White permanent(?) bumps?

Would SPF in a mist still work? 

I saw this product and got curious. Some reviews say its cooling and feels nice to apply, and due to weather starting to really warm where I am, it sounds tempting. But I am still worried over my skin in the sun.

 I spent my whole life not using sunscreen and my skin is paying for it...

Maemii